Are you dating a guy who is afraid of commitment? Have you been dating him for a long time now and are wondering why he hasn’t taken the relationship to the next phase? Why hasn’t he even talked about commitment with you? Well don’t worry; there are ways to reach a guy who may be terrified of commitment. When you discover these ways, you can help him take your relationship to the level you both know that you want.
Attraction – Attraction is obviously an important factor in every relationship, but this goes beyond simple hip-to-waist ratios. Are you someone who takes care of yourself? Do you consider yourself healthy overall? Do you constantly try to look in a way that’ll make him feel proud to be with you? Even though he’ll never say it, when he’s thinking about taking that next step, like you, is he wondering what the kids will look like, or what type of mother you might be? How you take care of yourself is the first clue to him making that commitment.
Being with YOU is “easy” – This means no dramas, no pressure, nothing that makes him stress. It just feels easy being with you. It’s no different than the way you choose your best friends. It’s easy being with them—you can be yourself and feel at ease with them and that’s why you love being around them. When you feel this comfortable around someone, you want to be around them more. So make sure he feels that way with you.
Make him feel amazing – You love to get compliments, who doesn’t? But how often do you compliment him? When he feels amazing around you, which he will if you praise him up, he’ll want to be with you even more. This is one reason why some men cheat, because their partner stopped paying them this sort of attention. Some men have fragile egos, which means their ego button can easily be pushed by anyone, whether they’re committed or not. Push that ego button as often as you can if you want him to stick around and take things up to the next level.
He wants to make you happy – Men feel an ego boost and a sense of accomplishment when they know they’ve made their partner happy. If you’re always complaining around him, he won’t want to commit to you, because he won’t feel he’s doing a good job. There’s a saying that married men live by, ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’, if he knows he can make you happy, he’s more likely to want to commit to the relationship.
YOU are different – Any man who does and says the right things to a girl, thinks he can get her into bed or on a date whenever he wants. The guy that wants to commit, wants a girl that isn’t so easily swayed. You hear guys talking about why they finally proposed: “She was different to any other girl I dated. She’s special.” This quality is admired by men as she creates mystery and doesn’t act like a drama queen!
She shares her feelings with you – Guys know that women are more emotional creatures than men, and they have a lot more skills in discussing their feelings. But that doesn’t mean men don’t have feeling, they just find it harder to express them. When you’re able to share your feelings easily with no expectations or pressure, he’s more comfortable in following suit. If you’re too busy playing the aloof cool girl, he’ll lose interest and find someone who he can share his feelings with.
No convincing needed – Relationships don’t move to the next level based on just one conversation. They move ahead because of all of the variables mentioned. Over time, you are someone who has made him feel amazing and who he doesn’t want to lose. He doesn’t decide to commit to you because you sat him down and had ‘the talk’ and showed him two options remaining for your relationship.
The Bottom Line
When it comes to commitment, every man is different. But as humans, we all function and behave in a similar manner in that we gravitate towards what makes us feel good and away from that which makes us feel bad. Even self-professed commitment-phobes aren’t really phobic about commitment; it’s human nature to want to be with one person forever. They’re simply afraid of being with the wrong person forever, just like you are. Getting him to commit is not about planning a special night and a single conversation, it’s about creating a relationship that makes you both feel good about one another to the point where you want to spend the rest of your lives together.
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